Etiquette in the Context of Death and Dying

Communication and Conversation

Bibliographic Data

ID13628858
AuthorsJennifer Dayes (0000-0002-6357-3987, Manchester Metropolitan University, corresponding author), Joseph Keenan (0000-0002-8855-1776, Manchester Metropolitan University), Michal Sadza (Manchester Metropolitan University), Karina Croucher (0000-0002-3040-9304, University of Bradford)
Year2023
Volume92
Issue3
Pages1169-1190
Publication date2023-11-03
Peer ReviewedYes
Open AccessYes
TypeARTICLE
VenueOMEGA - Journal of Death and Dying (JOURNAL)
Journal identifiersISSN: 0030-2228 • E-ISSN: 1541-3764
PublisherSAGE Publishing (PUBLISHER • US)
DOI10.1177/00302228231196623
PMID37922522
OpenAlexW4388280512
LanguageEN
Citations received4
References cited56

Death, bereavement, and grief are experiences suffused with conflict and disenfranchisement. Intricately connected is 'etiquette' - the sense of 'should' 'must' 'right' 'wrong' 'appropriate' and 'inappropriate' individuals feel in death and bereavement situations. This paper is the first of two answering the question, 'where does etiquette arise in death and bereavement situations and what does this 'look like?'' The theme The etiquette of communication and conversation is described, highlighting the importance of early communication for resolving conflict, what is considered 'appropriate' communication and support, and the social values underpinning these. Data highlighted how the CBT concept of 'shoulding and musting' manifests in death and bereavement situations, gave insight into etiquette's role in disenfranchising grief through shaping conversations, and offered suggestions for bereavement support. Though the term 'etiquette' may be misleading out of context, the concept resonated with the bereaved community and provided language to discuss the nuances of their experiences

Context (archaeology · Conversation · Etiquette · Grief · Linguistics · Psychotherapist · Theme (computing · Communication · Computer Science · Grief, Bereavement, and Mental Health · History · Migration, Health and Trauma · Palliative Care and End-of-Life Issues · Psychology · Social Psychology