Getting It On Versus Getting It Over With
Sexual Motivation, Desire, and Satisfaction in Intimate Bonds
Bibliographic Data
| ID | 23345975 |
|---|---|
| Authors | Amy Muise (0000-0002-9000-4106, University of Toronto Mississauga, Ontario, Canada, corresponding author), Emily A Impett (University of Toronto Mississauga, Ontario, Canada), Emily Impett (0000-0003-3348-7524, University of Toronto Mississauga, Ontario, Canada), Serge Desmarai (0000-0003-3485-3303, University of Guelph), Serge Desmarais (University of Guelph, Ontario, Canada) |
| Year | 2013 |
| Volume | 39 |
| Issue | 10 |
| Pages | 1320-1332 |
| Publication date | 2013-10-01 |
| Peer Reviewed | Yes |
| Open Access | Yes |
| Type | ARTICLE |
| Venue | Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin (JOURNAL) |
| Journal identifiers | ISSN: 0146-1672 • E-ISSN: 1552-7433 |
| Publisher | SAGE Publications (PUBLISHER • US) |
| DOI | 10.1177/0146167213490963 |
| PMID | 23812928 |
| OpenAlex | W2126272978 |
| Language | EN |
| Citations received | 91 |
| References cited | 33 |
Across three studies, we demonstrate that pursuing sex for approach goals, such as to enhance intimacy, fuels satisfaction and pursuing sex for avoidance goals, such as to avoid disappointing a partner, detracts from satisfaction. In Study 1, we use hypothetical scenarios to provide experimental support for the associations between sexual goals and sexual and relationship satisfaction. In Study 2, a dyadic daily experience study of dating couples, we demonstrate that daily sexual goals are associated with both partners’ daily relationship and sexual satisfaction. In Study 3, a dyadic daily experience study, we replicate the daily associations between sexual goals and satisfaction in a sample of long-term couples, and demonstrate that sexual goals impact partner’s relationship and sexual quality 4 months later. In all studies, the associations between sexual goals and enhanced satisfaction as reported by both partners were mediated by sexual desire. Implications for research on sexual motivation and close relationships are discussed.
Developmental psychology · Human sexuality · Quality (philosophy) · Sample (material) · Sexual desire · Sexual relationship · Attachment and Relationship Dynamics · Psychology · Sexual function and dysfunction studies · Sexuality, Behavior, and Technology · Social Psychology
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Perceived Changes in Sexual Interest and Distress About Discrepant Sexual Interest During the First Phase of Covid-19 Pandemic
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Discrepancy in Dyadic Sexual Desire Predicts Sexual Distress over Time in a Community Sample of Committed Couples
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Newlywed Couples’ Own and Partner Sexual Disgust Sensitivities Interact to Predict Their Marital Satisfaction Through Their Sexual Satisfaction
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The Gendered Sexual Experiences and Marital Quality of Middle-Aged Same-Sex and Different-Sex Couples
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Motivations for Engaging in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships
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Sexual Desire is not Partner-Specific
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The associations of intimacy and sexuality in daily life
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Reasons for sex and relational outcomes in consensually nonmonogamous and monogamous relationships
Accuracy in perceptions of a partner's sexual goals
Levels and volatility in daily relationship quality
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Sexual exchanges explain the association between attachment insecurities and sexual satisfaction in long-term couples
Longitudinal associations between childhood maltreatment and sexual motivations in couples
Self-expansion is associated with greater relationship and sexual well-being for couples coping with low sexual desire
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Sexuality in the context of relationships.
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Sexual Desire and Relationship Functioning
Diary Methods
Asymptotic and resampling strategies for assessing and comparing indirect effects in multiple mediator models
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| Unique citing works | 91 |
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| Citations per year | 8,27 |
| Citation span | 2015 - 2026 (12) |
| Citation velocity | current |
| Highly cited | No |
| Citation types | Neutral: 83 |