When "we" changes "me
The two-dimensional model of relational self-change and relationship outcomes
Bibliographic Data
| ID | 2935563 |
|---|---|
| Authors | Kevin P Mcintyre (0000-0001-8182-6389, Trinity University, corresponding author), Brent A Mattingly (0009-0003-9401-8200, Ursinus College), Gary W Lewandowski (Monmouth University), Gary Lewandowski (0000-0002-6432-2346, Monmouth University) |
| Year | 2015 |
| Volume | 32 |
| Issue | 7 |
| Pages | 857-878 |
| Publication date | 2015-11-01 |
| Peer Reviewed | Yes |
| Open Access | Yes |
| Type | ARTICLE |
| Venue | Journal of Social and Personal Relationships (JOURNAL) |
| Journal identifiers | ISSN: 0265-4075 • E-ISSN: 1460-3608 |
| Publisher | SAGE Publications Inc (PUBLISHER) |
| DOI | 10.1177/0265407514553334 |
| OpenAlex | W2039198216 |
| Language | EN |
| Citations received | 26 |
| References cited | 41 |
Individuals in close relationships may perceive changes to their self-concepts as a result of being with their partners. According to the two-dimensional model of relational self-change, these changes occur across two dimensions, namely direction, which reflects whether the self-concept has gained or lost content, and valence, which reflects whether the self-concept content is positive or negative. These two dimensions combine to create four distinct self-change processes, whereby individuals gain positive traits (self-expansion), gain negative traits (self-adulteration), lose positive traits (self-contraction), and lose negative traits (self-pruning). Study 1 used a longitudinal design and revealed that changes in each of the four self-processes were associated with subsequent relationship satisfaction and commitment. To further investigate the association of self-change with relationship quality, Study 2 found that processes associated with self-concept improvement (i.e., self-expansion and self-pruning) were positively associated with relationship maintenance behaviors and motivations (e.g., accommodation, forgiveness, and willingness to sacrifice), whereas processes associated with self-concept degradation (i.e., self-contraction and self-adulteration) were negatively associated with these outcomes and positively associated with behaviors that may harm the relationship (e.g., dissolution considerations, attention to alternatives, and seeking revenge
Developmental psychology · Forgiveness · Valence (chemistry · Attachment and Relationship Dynamics · Intimate Partner and Family Violence · Marriage and Sexual Relationships · Psychology · Social Psychology
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Positive or Negative
Confusion or Clarity? Examining a Possible Tradeoff Between Self-Expansion and Self-Concept Clarity
Changing Me by Sacrificing for Thee
Attachment theory and the relational self
The effects of conflict resolution styles on perceived relational self-concept change
Motivated self-change to protect the relational self
A systematic review of relationship sacrifices from 2002 to 2021
Being a Leader and Doing Leadership
A longitudinal study of “we‐talk” as a predictor of marital satisfaction
The Transformative power of friendships
Promoting healthy sexual relationships
Making meaning by sacrifice – self and relationship commitment in Finnish spouses and partners of people with mental illness
The Association Between Relationship Status and Health
Self-expansion motivation and inclusion of others in self
Self-expansion within sexual minority relationships
Self‐Expansion Theory
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Changing for the worse
Romantic Relationships and Mental Health
Relationship-induced self-concept change and the malleability of attachment security
Implicit theories of relationships and self-expansion
Self-expansion is associated with greater relationship and sexual well-being for couples coping with low sexual desire
Implications of relationship-induced self-concept change across partners
The principles of psychology.
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The Self-Expansion Model of Motivation and Cognition in Close Relationships
Who Am I Without You? The Influence of Romantic Breakup on the Self-Concept
Asymptotic and resampling strategies for assessing and comparing indirect effects in multiple mediator models
Expanding the Self Brick by Brick
The Michelangelo Phenomenon and Personal Well‐Being
Predicting nonmarital romantic relationship dissolution
The Investment Model Scale
Losing a self‐expanding relationship
Forgiveness in Marriage
“You make me a better/worse person”
An Expanded Self is a More Capable Self
Validating a Measure of Self and Partner Change in Romantic Relationships
Including others in the self
Current and typical self-appraisals
Couples' shared participation in novel and arousing activities and experienced relationship quality
Close partner as sculptor of the ideal self
What the Motivated Mind Sees
The dangers of dating the “bad boy” (or girl)
Cognitive interdependence
Inattentive and contented
Inclusion of Other in the Self Scale and the structure of interpersonal closeness
The doormat effect
Falling in love
Dealing with betrayal in close relationships
Willingness to sacrifice in close relationships
Accommodation processes in close relationships
When "we" changes "me
Loneliness in Married, Widowed, Divorced, and Never-Married Older Adults
Shared Activities and Marital Satisfaction
Forgiveness and forgiving communication in dating relationships
Lying, Cheating, Complaining, and Other Aversive Interpersonal Behaviors
| Unique citing works | 26 |
|---|---|
| Citations per year | 2,36 |
| Citation span | 2015 - 2026 (12) |
| Citation velocity | current |
| Highly cited | No |
| Citation types | Neutral: 26 |