No pain, no gain
Perceived partner mate value mediates the desire-inducing effect of being hard to get during online and face-to-face encounters
Bibliographic Data
| ID | 2932730 |
|---|---|
| Authors | Gurit E Birnbaum (0000-0002-2033-4839, Interdisciplinary Center (IDC) Herzliya, Israel, corresponding author), Kobi Zholtack (0000-0002-4776-3844, Interdisciplinary Center (IDC) Herzliya, Israel), H T Reis (0000-0002-3542-6074, University of Rochester) |
| Year | 2020 |
| Volume | 37 |
| Issue | 8-9 |
| Pages | 2510-2528 |
| Publication date | 2020-08-01 |
| Peer Reviewed | Yes |
| Open Access | Yes |
| Type | ARTICLE |
| Venue | Journal of Social and Personal Relationships (JOURNAL) |
| Journal identifiers | ISSN: 0265-4075 • E-ISSN: 1460-3608 |
| Publisher | SAGE Publications Inc (PUBLISHER) |
| DOI | 10.1177/0265407520927469 |
| OpenAlex | W3033538903 |
| Language | EN |
| Citations received | 8 |
| References cited | 29 |
Playing hard to get is a common strategy used to attract mates. Past research has been unclear about whether and why this strategy facilitates mate pursuit. In three studies, we examined whether perceiving potential partners as hard to get instigated sexual desire and whether perceived partner mate value explained this effect. In doing so, we focused on tactics that give the impression that potential partners are hard to get and may genuinely signal their mate value (being selective in choosing mates, efforts invested in their pursuit). In all studies, participants interacted with an opposite-sex confederate and rated their perceptions of the confederate. In Study 1, participants interacted with confederates whose profile indicated that they were either hard to get or easy to attract. In Study 2, participants exerted (or not) real efforts to attract the confederate. In Study 3, interactions unfolded spontaneously and were coded for efforts made to see the confederate again. Results indicated that the perception of whether a confederate was hard to get was associated with their mate value, which, in turn, predicted greater desire and efforts to see the confederate again, suggesting that being hard to get is an effective strategy that heightens perceptions of partners' mate value
Face (sociological concept · Face value · Mate choice · Mating · Perception · Sociology · Value (mathematics · Attachment and Relationship Dynamics · Evolutionary Game Theory and Cooperation · Evolutionary Psychology and Human Behavior · Psychology · Social Psychology
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| Unique citing works | 8 |
|---|---|
| Citations per year | 1,33 |
| Citation span | 2020 - 2026 (7) |
| Citation velocity | current |
| Highly cited | No |
| Citation types | Neutral: 8 |