How mothers talk to their children about failure, mistakes and setbacks is related to their children's fear of failure
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BackgroundMany people fear failure and making mistakes. This fear can be transmitted from parents to children, suggesting that parental communication regarding failures and setbacks may play a critical role in shaping a child's perception of mistakes.AimsIn this study, we investigated how everyday parent-child conversations about setbacks influence children's fear of making mistakes.SampleDrawing on the large pre-birth Growing Up in New Zealand cohort, we focused on a sub-sample of 231 mother-child dyads who engaged in a recorded conversations about a "recent disappointment or setback" when the children were 8 years old.MethodConversations between mothers and children about the recent disappointments were coded to identify whether parents recognised or acknowledge their child's emotional response, if action plans were discussed, and the types of resources that the child could draw on. The children also completed a questionnaire about their global self-worth and their fear of making mistakes.Results and ConclusionsThe discussion of clear action plans, in the absence of a discussion about collaborative resources, was found to be associated with an increased fear of making mistakes among children. Conversely, when mothers clearly acknowledged their child's emotions and discussed ways to work collaboratively with their child on future problems, there was a notable decrease in the child's fear of mistakes. However, it is noteworthy that many mothers in our study either minimally acknowledged or dismissed their child's emotions(40%), rarely discussed action plans (55%), or collaborative resources (79%)when discussing the recent setback
Developmental psychology · Fear of failure · Attachment and Relationship Dynamics · Child and Adolescent Psychosocial and Emotional Development · Family and Disability Support Research · Psychology · Social Psychology
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