Balancing connectedness and self-protection goals in close relationships
A levels-of-processing perspective on risk regulation
Bibliographic Data
| ID | 6199810 |
|---|---|
| Authors | Sandra L Murray (0000-0002-4506-9285), Susan Murray (0000-0003-4387-7673, University at Buffalo, State University of New York), Jaye L Derrick (0000-0002-9525-0170, University at Buffalo, State University of New York), Sadie Leder (University at Buffalo, State University of New York), John G Holmes (University of Waterloo) |
| Year | 2008 |
| Volume | 94 |
| Issue | 3 |
| Pages | 429-459 |
| Publication date | 2008-01-01 |
| Peer Reviewed | Yes |
| Open Access | No |
| Type | ARTICLE |
| Venue | Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (JOURNAL) |
| Journal identifiers | ISSN: 0022-3514 • E-ISSN: 1939-1315 |
| Publisher | American Psychological Association (APA) (PUBLISHER) |
| DOI | 10.1037/0022-3514.94.3.429 |
| PMID | 18284291 |
| OpenAlex | W2123263857 |
| Language | EN |
| Citations received | 104 |
| References cited | 69 |
A model of risk regulation is proposed to explain how low and high self-esteem people balance the tension between self-protection and connectedness goals in romantic relationships. This model assumes that interpersonal risk automatically activates connectedness and self-protection goals. The activation of these competing goals then triggers an executive control system that resolves this goal conflict. One correlational study and 8 experiments manipulating risk, goal strength, and executive strength and then measuring implicit and explicit goal activation and execution strongly supported the model. For people high in self-esteem, risk triggers a control system that directs them toward the situations of dependence within their relationship that can fulfill connectedness goals. For people low in self-esteem, however, the activation of connectedness goals triggers a control system that prioritizes self-protection goals and directs them away from situations where they need to trust or depend on their partner
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